I used to think I needed to beat myself up so I could be a better person.
It’s like I believed I needed to scold myself for all the mistakes, the people I trusted and shouldn’t have, the times I said the wrong thing or shouldn’t have spoken at all.
Only then could I keep myself safe from future mistakes or make sure I didn’t let anyone else down.
It didn’t work.
Because beating yourself up doesn’t make you happy, doesn’t prevent you from being human, and can’t keep you from feeling your feelings.
FREE Meditation: Love of Self
This fabulous free meditation focuses on connecting with yourself and then explores the blocks that prevent you from loving and accepting yourself.
Being able to live and learn is a natural part of our evolution.
And part of learning includes forgiving yourself.
It’s about keeping the lessons and letting go of the pain and struggle you’re holding onto (the stuff you think is keeping you safe but is really turning yourself into a personal punching bag).
Throughout the day, when you catch yourself beating yourself up for not being someone or somewhere you’re not, do an interrupt. Say, “STOP!” whenever your thoughts, words, or actions aren’t kind.
Next speak the following words from your heart: “I forgive myself for not forgiving myself.”
Forgiveness is a soothing balm that brings you the relief you’ve always wanted.
If this helps, feel free to hit reply and let me know! I’d love to hear about how you’re able to forgive yourself.
P.S. If exercises like this help make your day even a little easier, you need to check out Journey to Your Center Essentials. It’s FULL of meditations, talks, exercises, and tools that will help you stay grounded and present with your life, let love in (no matter what’s going on around you), and forgive yourself for all the things you’ve done—even when you’ve never been able to before. You deserve ALL the love.