The horror of what we’re seeing in Ukraine, as hospitals are being bombed and unarmed people, including children, are recklessly dying is gruesome and appalling. And all this happening on the heels of the Covid-19 pandemic. It’s a lot.
Yet, as much as we hate it, we can’t turn our eyes away. We keep watching. And hoping.
Witnessing so much pain and senseless aggression makes us feel powerless and uncertain about what’s to come.
The truth is, we hate that feeling even more.
So, we find ways to cope.
And our favorite coping mechanism for chaos and uncertainty is to double down on control.
We stay tuned to the news day and night as if something more terrible might happen if we’re not constantly informed. We may even inflame drama in our personal relationships. On some unconscious level, we’re trying to gain control over our environment.
But we also feel tremendous empathy for those hurting. We look for ways to alleviate their pain and suffering – to help them be less powerless. We donate to humanitarian organizations like The Red Cross and Doctors Without Borders. We toss a dollar to a street beggar. We help where we can.
Of course, helping others is good. But what we rarely admit is that we are doing it to make ourselves feel better. More in control. Less afraid. Less guilty. Less ashamed that others are suffering so much while we watch from the other side of the world in our La-Z-Boy recliner.
You can’t pick up the torch for all things. You can’t save the world. Trust me, I’ve tried.
You may think that all this – immersing yourself in painful stories of others, giving away a bunch of money, or donating your old clothing, etc. – is going to make you feel better. But it often doesn’t. Why?
Cuz when you do good things to avoid feeling bad, you’re living in denial and you don’t even know it.
Are you making yourself feel inadequate because you didn’t give even more to cure cancer, stop global warming, and save that 4-year-old from being bombed?
In truth, whatever you do is always enough.
You can’t pick up the torch for all things.
You can pick up the torch and do the things that you’re inspired to do. To show up with more love.
And that’s enough.
But love is not the same as control.
There’s a famous quote from the late Fred Rogers:
“When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother
would say to me, ‘Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.’”
Once a comfort for preschoolers, this now-famous quote has become the adult consolation meme for tragedies where we feel powerless. A tactic that diverts our distress toward safety.
As much as we’d like to pretend otherwise, the truth is there is very little you actually control. Not that painful diagnosis from the doctor. Not mass shootings. Not the winning lotto numbers. Not a swift resolution to a senseless war.
This is a world of insanity. It always has been and always will be.
The world will never stop being chaotic and painful, no matter what you do.
The only thing that’s really going to help is bringing more love into the world. And this is where you come in.
You have the power to tip the scales toward love by doing your work. Leaning into the triggers and trauma you feel, bringing them to light, and healing yourself from them. That’s powerful. Learning to actively love yourself brings more love to the world as a whole.
While our suffering deserves compassion, we are often at the mercy of our own limited beliefs that keep us locked in victimhood. We fall to our own dishonesty, lack of integrity, power grabs to control others or situations, and more. And then, when met with other people’s versions of the same, we cry out at the injustice, while ignorant of our own.
When you heal your pain, you’re contributing to the world.
Putin is a perfect example of a bully and wounded fuck throwing his weight around. The negative impact of his actions are far-reaching because of his position of power.
Hurt people hurt people.
But healing yourself from the pain and struggle can have a positive ripple effect on everyone around you. I look at myself and see how me doing my work has helped hundreds of people feel inspired to do theirs.
You can only bring this love to others when you have this love for yourself. When you know you are already enough exactly as you are, even if you never do another thing for anyone ever again.
Loving yourself exactly as you are allows everyone else to show up in the world exactly as they are.
- That’s how you bring about real change.
- That’s how you combat evil/hate/tragedy.
- That’s more than enough.
Feel like you can’t give enough, do enough, see enough when it comes to what’s going on in Ukraine?
I’m deeply inspired to love on those suffering from this senseless war — and to love on YOU (and your families) too.
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When you heal your own pain, you’re healing the world.
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World peace truly is an inside job.
Give yourself the gift of healing as you help others who are struggling too.
Rita ❤️
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