Pain is a part of life. Suffering is optional, and caused by resisting what life offers. If you accept life and what it offers, you will not suffer.
When you experience suffering or a “trigger” there is something up for you to feel into and heal. We all have unresolved fears and traumas from our past, and they continue to play out time and time again, until we shift our consciousness around them.
Letting go of resistance and opening your heart to acceptance is the way to release drama from your life. When you accept what is, there is no way to have conflict in your life. Even though you may be sad or cry as life plays out, there is still the power of acceptance and that is transformative.
YOU get to decide whether you are experiencing a good day or a bad day. That is how powerful you are! If you happen to like, accept, or want what is happening, then you might call it a good day. On the chance that you want something else to happen, you might focus on what a bad day it is, or how awful your life is, or how “that” person’s actions are keeping you from happiness. This is essentially playing Russian Roulette with your happiness. These egoic judgements keep you from connecting with happiness.
When you have a true connection with yourself you will never be or feel lonely. Your relationship with the world is truly a reflection of your relationship with yourself. The juiciness of life is available through the power of Self-Love. Self-Love fosters connection.
Do your work to explore the blocks and limitations of Self-Love. The expanded freedom, joy, ease, and acceptance of this thing called life that follows is amazing.
In his book Emptiness Dancing, Adyashanti shared a bit of advice for those considering spiritual work:
“If you really want to be free, you’ve got to be prepared to lose your world — your whole world. If you’re trying to prove your world view is right, you might as well pack your bags, and go home. If you want to wake up and find, ‘Hallelujah! I was right about it all,’ just go on vacation or back to work, and don’t drive yourself crazy on spiritual matters. But if it’s slightly appealing to think about waking up and realizing, ‘Oh I was totally wrong, I was totally wrong about myself and about everybody else. I was totally wrong about the world,’ you might be in the right place.”
Accepting what is means letting go of any attachment to being right or to your past. How you relate to your world is a reflection of how you experience your life. Experiencing anything through the lens of Love opens your heart and simply feels good!