Feelings are often mistaken as something to be judged as “good” or “bad.” This misunderstanding can keep you held in painful cycles of feeling disappointed, lonely, angry and hurt. When you experience life-crushing circumstances or disappointments that bring you to the edge of despair, you are being shown the EXACT thought patterns and stored trauma you need to address and clear in order to experience life more peacefully.
Using your feelings as a guide to what core issues are up for you to heal, allows you to interrupt the pain cycle and moves you into true healing. As uncomfortable or frightening as it may be to feel your feelings, when you accept and make room for your charged emotions, you are creating the space needed to release the anchors that have kept you mired in pain and struggle. This in turn makes room for you to have a new experience of your life.
Opening to your feelings will inspire a profound transformation for you, however, there is no need to rush the process. You may approach feeling your feelings quickly or ever so slowly. Facing your feelings may be easy for you or feel impossibly hard. And the ease or difficulty may be different for different emotions or situations. No matter what, be gentle with yourself and remember that you are moving into uncharted territory, and like a child learning something new, you deserve support and loving kindness along the way.
No matter how much upheaval day-to-day life brings you, it is all an invitation to connect with love. In the contrast of life you may forget and lose yourself in thoughts and beliefs that you need to be doing more or that your life should be different from what it is. When you are willing to bring love and acceptance to your feelings of pain, healing and connection will transcend any pain that is held.
Please note, this is NOT the same as using feelings to stay stuck in unhealthy beliefs of “I am not enough,” or “I am a victim of people’s opinions of me,” or “Why bother, nothing will change anyway.” Instead, you can use your feelings to help you connect more deeply with yourself, to move away from pain and struggle, and to move towards joy.
Recently, I had the pleasure of supporting a client as he realized that the pain he felt as a child (feeling unloved, like he was never enough, and angry that others didn’t treat him the way he wanted to be treated) reflected the exact same pain he was experiencing now in his intimate relationships and at work. This understanding helped him to ease into feeling and seeing what was really up for him to heal.
Whenever you are triggered, something is up for YOU to heal. This isn’t about making yourself wrong or feeling like you are not enough. Life is a journey and bringing awareness to your tender spots creates space to transform.
Remember, feeling your feelings is all a part of living a healthy vibrant life. Being numb is not living. When you acknowledge painful feelings in your life, it offers you an opportunity to learn more about yourself. This intimacy with yourself guides you in making healthy connected choices: choices to stay in relationships that support you, remove yourself from ones that don’t, or to stay in poor relationships and learn your lesson so you don’t have to recreate another one just like it. All of your relationships are a reflection of your relationship with yourself.
Facing your emotions can be difficult or feel down right impossible to do alone, and at times it may seem like the only option is to stay stuck. Through working one-on-one with clients I have helped thousands to move through sticking points to live with a greater level of peace and acceptance. I can help you too. You deserve to be supported and you don’t have to do it alone. If inspired, call 515-313-1156 today to schedule your appointment today, or read more about sessions on my website.
This post originally appeared in the May 2018 Inner Prosperity Newsletter. You can sign up for our newsletter and get these gems in your inbox as well as a free guided mediation on peace.