Clients often hit different aspects of their core issues and complain that they thought they were done with “that thing.”
They’ll say, “I thought I was past this,” or, “Haven’t I already dealt with that shit?”,
As if leaning into your core issue of abandonment and rejection one time means that you’ll never have to face abandonment and rejection again. That’s hopeful, but it’s not the way it works.
Just because you no longer feel hurt about not getting invited to the neighborhood golf tournament, doesn’t mean you won’t be hurt when your best friend from high school doesn’t invite you to her wedding.
The truth is, healing your core wounds happens in layers. You won’t know you’ve fully cleared an issue until you face it again in a new way and aren’t triggered.
That’s part of what makes this work so hard (until it isn’t): You think you’re further along than you really are.
You think that because you’re no longer absolutely crushed by your boss’s criticism, you shouldn’t care what your kid’s teacher thinks about your parenting skills.
You think you shouldn’t get so worked up over the same drama because you meditate or even joined Journey to Your Center.
You think that because you went to the bathroom as soon as you had to go one time, that gives you a pass every other time you’re tempted to put someone else’s needs above your own.
But that’s not even remotely true.
The truth is, you deserve more love, not less.
The truth is, you have wants and needs (and not naming them isn’t going to make them go away).
The truth is, being aware and accepting your life exactly as it is, is the only way you can let go of control and stop fighting like hell at every turn.
Because where and who you are is not only enough, it’s perfect.
If you can’t see that for yourself, and you’re a woman who’s looking for your people, join us on our next Inner Circle Healing call, where we’ll name truth in a way you’ve never had access to before.
Rita
P.S. TLDR: You think you’re further along in your spiritual evolution than you really are. There’s nothing wrong with that, but it might be hindering your growth. If you really want to name truth and release the shit you’ve been holding onto for-freaking-ever, join us for an Inner Circle Healing Session inside The Essentials (both men and women are welcome!).
