Having worked with thousands of clients who constantly tell me I’ve helped them more in one session than a decade of therapy, I can say this for certain: you can’t heal what you don’t feel.
But how do you let yourself feel the things from your past you’ve spent your whole life running from? How do you open yourself up to facing the miscarriage, the sexual assault, your parents constantly choosing alcohol over attending your swim meets?
You get intimate with yourself and lean into your vulnerability.
Why? Because your vulnerability and openness ARE your superpowers.
Being willing to “go there” and face the shit from your past you’ve never been able to process before, is the only way to heal.
Being vulnerable is the first step in clearing held emotions and trauma stuck in your body. (I define trauma as anything that happened to you that you couldn’t process at the time it happened, including being laughed at by your whole class in 3rd grade because you did a math problem wrong on the whiteboard.)
Your past is what happened to you, but it doesn’t define you.
Because the truth is, you are love and you are loved.
And when you love and accept your whole, authentic self (exactly as you are), you get to be more you, feel more joy, and stop getting triggered every time your best friend’s spouse’s cousin’s Golden Retriever rolls around in the mud.
We all know the smile plastered on your face 24/7 isn’t genuine if you’re doing it because “good girls” don’t get angry (or sad, hurt, frustrated, anxious, or whatever other BS you were taught growing up).
Emotional vulnerability is the willingness to acknowledge how you REALLY feel—not how you think you should feel.
And that begins with awareness. It begins with paying attention to what you’re doing and why you’re doing it.
If you want a new experience, you have to be more honest with yourself than ever before. Try this on:
- How do you feel? (No, really.) If you don’t know how you feel, you can’t expect other people to read your mind either.
- What are you afraid of? What are times in your life that, when you think of them, you absolutely contract, your stomach’s tied up in knots, you get angry, you’re filled with rage? Why are you running from them?
- Can you try on vulnerability and let yourself go “there”? Don’t worry if you can’t at first. Scoop up your inner child or past self and give them the safe space they need to feel their feels. Remember, no matter what, you deserve more love, not less.
- When you’re stuck, journal. Send your judgments out the door and puke your pent-up thoughts and feelings onto the page. Writing gives you space to process your feelings and triggers so they don’t get stuck or stay stuck in your body.
Who wants to face the most excruciating pain from their past that they’ve ever experienced?
Why? Cuz when I don’t, I’ll get hit with the same BS limitations I’m unknowingly carrying until I finally face, process, and release the pain.
If you like your life, your relationships, and what you’re doing, keep doing it.
If not, what are you going to do about it? Remember, your vulnerability and your openness are your power.
Real healing takes courage, vulnerability, and a willingness to process the pain from your past—even when it’s the most difficult thing you’ve ever done.
But when you’re willing to be vulnerable and open to that pain (knowing it doesn’t define you), you’ll be amazed at how your life changes—without waiting on anything or anyone else to change first.
Are you willing to lean in and get vulnerable so you can actually heal? Join the online women’s group, Journey to Your Center.
Choose live monthly sessions with Rita and a supportive group of women. Or jumpstart your healing journey with my self-paced program – The Essentials.
With either program, you’ll find hours of frequently updated content –– powerful tools, videos, meditations, energy transmissions, and coaching to help you hone your skills and change your life –– all in the freaking best way possible. ❤️🤯❤️
Each month you’ll receive a new topic designed to help you uncover your blocks and blow through them.
You deserve to face the shit that’s bothering you and to be FULLY seen for the love that you are, so you can finally see it for yourself. That’s what we do here with #TeamLove and it’s absolutely magical. Don’t wait another day. I’ve got you. Learn more and apply here. 💖